At the same place you swore you would never return to. Masturbating to pornography. Engaging in sexual behaviour that you know deep down is in conflict with who you are. You put in the work to not go there and even with your best intentions and actions, it still didn't seem to work. The crazy thing is you know you are loved and have a "calling" on your life to do greater things. And while you sheepishly receive grace and forgiveness time and time again, your hope of a new way of living and operating to your full potential seems to wane each time you fall.
However, in late 2019, everything changed for me. I was invited to join a few other guys struggling with the same stuff and I dived into a deep personal transformation journey that has well…completely transformed me. It has transformed my marriage. My family. My relationships. My being. It has transformed the way I think about myself, the way I think about God, the way I think about others. And yes it has transformed my deeply embedded pornography addiction into a place of healing for others.
Even though I found a new found freedom in porn recovery, I soon discovered that there were deeper issues I needed to confront. I wasn't just a porn addict but a performance junkie.
Performance was a way I had learnt to cover up what was really going on. Performance was a way I could divert attention away from my inner turmoil. Performance was my way of obtaining a false sense of worth and value.
And that's not all.
I was also confronted with my third primary addiction.
Profit. Money. income.
My high income salary was in fact something I was dependent on more than I would have liked to admit. It bought me immediate respect amongst friends and family and peers. It was a crutch I would lean on when things got touch…"well at least I earn lots of money".
Profit like porn and performance, was an unhealthy way I had learnt to cope and survive with the challenges of life and make myself feel a false sense of worth and value.
A MAN OF INTEGRITY ISN'T BORN OVERNIGHT
Why Just for men?
I recognise that these areas of porn, profit and performance affect all humans, but I developed this intimate group program and coaching experience intentionally for men.
The traditional pressures of being the financial provider of the family, the high performance expectations and the increasing sexualisation of society, tend to combine to hit men in a different way.
And I found through my own journey and the people I've helped over the years, the need for men to find other men to not only open up to and trust for a few months but over their life time.
It's another reason I'm strict on limiting the size of the group and to requiring an application process so those who are part of the journey are committed to their own personal transformation and will join me in ensuring a safe and trusted space.
MORE DETAILS
Duration
4 months
GROUP SIZE
Limit of 4 spots
FORMAT
All sessions held over zoom
INVESTMENT
$1,100/mth (Discount for upfront payment)
For as long as I could remember, it was so normal for me to feel hopeless and stuck. Whenever I was faced with the need to change my life, it felt like I had already tried everything and it felt like "this is as good as it gets". James was able to come alongside me on this journey, not just as someone who spoke life and encouragement, but as somebody who was careful in being real and honest with me. Nothing was ever simple throughout this process, but that was one of the reasons why I knew deep and lasting work was being done.
Jeremiah Liew
Media Producer and Project Leader
James helped me understand myself holistically. I felt encouraged and equipped to continue on my journey to healing and transformation. Through this intensive, I applied a new mindset, practices, and tools that make me a better man. If you feel stuck in your struggles, I'd recommend you consider this program to approach your challenges from a different angle. Having James as a coach and facilitator makes an immense difference. He's gone through the same experiences and can speak from his own journey.
Vitaly Kan
Sales Leader